2023Year May

This is KO-HEI, an online cram school and junior high school entrance exam arithmetic and science specialist instructor. This time, I will explain "what parents should never do when taking the junior high school exam", incorporating a true story. The junior high school entrance exam is said to be a "parent's exam", and it is difficult to pass the school of your choice without cooperation not only with children but also with parents and cram schools. For about three years from around the fourth grade of elementary school, parents also take their children to and from cram schools, review cram schools, and live according to the cram school curriculum, and for about three years, like their children, they are desperately working on the long rail of "junior high school entrance exams" like their children, and it is a more difficult and tough road than you can imagine. I understand that sometimes it can be emotional, and it takes a lot of mental work. However, on the other hand, we must not forget that the life of the child during the "junior high school entrance exam" for these three years greatly affects the growth of the child after that. This time, we will inform you of the three worst things that parents who have junior high school entrance exams should never do, with the true story that as a result of their parents' desperate desire to take the "junior high school exam" and the wrong direction, it greatly affected the child's helplessness and personality after entering junior high school, and at worst, he quit the preparatory school. ≪ Worst 1 "If you enter XX junior high school (school of your choice), you don't have to study" ≫ Never say words such as "If you enter XX junior high school, you will be safe until XX university (difficult university) even if you don't work hard anymore" or "If you work hard only now, you won't have to study anymore in the future". Junior high school entrance exam student, still 10~12 years old! Even if the parents say the words with the intention of getting excited, the child will believe them as they are. I will always remember this statement from my parents. "You just have to do your best now," "If you enter junior high school, you don't have to study anymore," and "If you enter XX junior high school, a fun life awaits you," and I will do my best. Parents are happy about their child's efforts, and they become even more agitated to say, "If only I could enter junior high school..." The child will do his best as if implied, "As long as you enter XX junior high school, you will have a happy life." During the time of studying for the entrance exam, both parents and children are united toward the goal of "passing XX junior high school!" and it is a good family environment at first glance. However, we must not forget that this seemingly good family environment tends to gradually deteriorate after entering 〇0 junior high school. 〇〇 Junior High School is an excellent preparatory school full of students who have naturally overcome strict entrance exams. After enrollment, students will begin learning at a rapid pace among these excellent students. There comes a time when a child gets through studying for the entrance exam with the expectation that "as long as he enters XX junior high school, he does not have to study" or "he can play in XX junior high school", but realizes that the reality is "not so". "My parents said that if I entered XX junior high school, I wouldn't have to study..." "My family said that I didn't have to work hard anymore when I entered XX junior high school..." Oh ~ I (I) was deceived by my parents!!! Here are two true stories. This is a boy who entered a junior high school attached to a very difficult university. "As long as you enter the junior high school attached to 〇〇 university, you will go straight to 〇0 university!" This consciousness took root in his brain during the junior high school entrance exam, and when he entered 〇0 junior high school, his learning reached the goal point. 〇〇 He is in the second year of junior high school, "Why do I have to study even though I entered XX junior high school!" "It would be good if I could advance!" "What's the point of studying any more!" "Why do I have to study for!" was a habit. Even so, boys in the 2~3rd year of junior high school almost reach a rebellious period. He is at 〇0 junior high school, and he does not actively participate in club activities or school activities, and just goes back and forth between school and home every day. 〇〇 In my student life where the only purpose was to get an educational background in college, I fell into a feeling of helplessness such as "sleeping at home all the time". Even his parents can't proudly say to him in the second year of junior high school, "Good luck studying!" My child remembers the statement two years ago, "If you enter a junior high school attached to XX university, you can enter XX university" ... Even if he gets an educational background from XX university, he has nothing to do with "future goals, dreams, and challenging spirit" I feel that "what was the junior high school entrance exam for!" A girl who entered a super difficult girls' junior high school. She always belonged to the top class at the junior high school entrance exam cram school, and she was sure to pass the super difficult junior high school. Even in this family, the whole family will support her! The words of encouragement are, after all, "As long as you pass the XX junior high school, you don't have to study anymore ..." She believed in the words of this family and tried her best to pass brilliantly! !! However, as mentioned above, the difficult junior high school I entered is full of excellent girls, and the progress is fast, and even if she is very smart, she cannot help but study. As soon as I entered junior high school, I was overwhelmed with studying for a difficult university. "If I passed junior high school, I would have said, 'I don't have to study anymore'..." Her anger at the thought of being betrayed by her parents grows day by day. On the other hand, the parents said "I don't have to study anymore..." remark that they uttered when they were taking the junior high school entrance exam has already disappeared from their memory, "What did you enter XX junior high school for? I have to study hard..." In the end, her anger towards her parents did not subside, and she rebelled in the form of truancy and quit junior high school. When she was taking the junior high school entrance exam, even though her family worked together to achieve the goal of "passing XX junior high school", the trust of parents and children was lost, and instead of the "joy" of learning, she was "hateful" in learning. [...]